Conflict Style Questionnaire

The statements below consist of different strategies used in dealing with conflicts. Using the following scale, fill in the blanks to the left of the statements.

How often do I feel or act this way?

4321
Most timesOftenSometimesRarely

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  1. I find it easier to withdraw from situations that involve conflict.
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  1. I predict conflicts before they even happen and plan scenarios to deal with them.
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  1. I want to make myself right and the other wrong in conflict situations.
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  1. I feel that the relationship is more important than winning an argument.
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  1. It is important for me to remain calm during the time a conflict occurs.
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  1. I am the kind of person who shows emotions easily during conflict.
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  1. The best way to deal with conflict is when each party gives up something.
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  1. I look at confronting a conflict in a positive and productive way.
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  1. I find reasons to delay dealing with conflict situations.
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  1. I guard myself by going over many moves and strategies when I anticipate a conflict.
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  1. When there's an argument or a disagreement I want to win it.
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  1. I would prefer to make peace than engage in heated arguments.
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  1. I believe that one should be rational and cool during the heat of a conflict.
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  1. I am very intense when there is discord or disagreement.
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  1. "You do for me and I do for you" is the best way to manage conflicts.
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  1. I try to look at conflicts with others as an opportunity for understanding and growth.
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  1. When there are clashes at work, I try to stay away and not get involved.
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  1. I think about past, present, and future conflicts a great deal so I can be prepared.
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  1. I try to overpower and intimidate the person with whom I am quarreling.
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  1. I believe that harmony in a relationship is more important than being right or wrong in a conflict.
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  1. I am fearful of expressing too much emotion during a quarrel.
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  1. When I'm in a conflict, I have to share my feelings so I'm understood.
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  1. If I can't win in a conflict, I need to compromise.
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  1. I am able to meet my needs in conflict situations and also satisfy the other person's needs, too.
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  1. I reach agreements as quickly as possible so that I don't really have to confront them.
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  1. I seek out situations where there may be conflict to protect myself.
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  1. It is more important for me to win an argument than to be accepted or liked.
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  1. In confronting situations, I give in to get it over with.
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  1. I put control of my feelings most important in communicating during a conflict.
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  1. Getting very emotional during a conflict is a strategy I like to take.
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  1. I don't believe you can really get a win-win. It's mostly a draw.
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  1. I find conflicts give me an opportunity to learn more about the other person.

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